Welcome to Project Fabulous Femme! Once or twice a month, I'll introduce you to a Fabulous Femme who's inspired me. I invite them to share their perspectives on being a modern woman and other vital corps topics. Please be kind, curious, and open-minded.
When I asked Brandy for a sound bite to describe her work, she told me she helps people in the business of helping people release their mad flava and show up brilliantly in their life and their biz. And hot damn, she does that well! I know because I get to start most Mondays with Brandy Skyping-in live from Hamilton, Ontario…and because I’ve seen her drop a slide with Terminator X into a professional presentation like it ain’t no thang. She owns her bold creativity, models it and helps it bloom for everyone who comes in contact with her. Now, in her own words, meet Brandy.
Q + A
How would you define being a modern woman in 2015? One of the best things about being a modern woman in 2015 is that you really get to define for yourself what that looks like. Whether you want to be the homemaking mama, the career driven diva, a lover of fashion and make up, an all-natural goddess, or a mix of both/neither/everything-in-between, it won’t take long to find a community of like-minded women who support you. There’s not a certain way to be a “strong woman” or a “real woman.” I dig that.
That said, with the world being more connected than ever, there’s also the chance for us to find people who have opinions about the way we live our lives- and those people armed with a bunch of articles that support their claim, no matter what they believe.
So I guess I’d say it’s both awesome and confusing - but I think it’s awesome more often than not.
What would you like modern women to give more of a shit about? What we use to nourish our minds. Our world is filled with subtle little messages that create a filter for how we view life…and ourselves. That view can have a serious effect on the quality of our lives. Are the people around you constantly making little judgmental comments about others? Are you watching movies and television that showcase a diverse group of strong leading ladies or are you only seeing thin, blonde, perfectly polished women winning (or worse, is it just men)? Do you find ways to keep up with current events? Do you enjoy fiction or is it all business all the time? How do you fire up your creativity? Are you reading articles and/or watching things that challenge your view of the world? It all matters. Pay attention to what’s going into that beautiful brain of yours.
Conversely, what would you like modern women to give less of a shit about? Being “normal.” There’s this pressure to live the pin-worthy, ideal, perfect life. Even if we believe we’re destined for greatness, there’s comfort in the status quo. But the truth is, our greatness (or brilliance, as I love to call it) is rooted in our ability to confidently express our true selves. Trying to be anything but yourself means feeling drained and unfulfilled. Everyone is a little weird. The more of us who let our mad flava (aka our unique personality and perspective) out into the world, the less pressure there will be to keep up the Jones’ and, if you’re being honest with yourself, the Jones’ are pretty boring anyway.
What is your superpower? In other words, what can you do on a rockstar-level without even thinking about it? I’m pretty bad ass at showing people the most powerful sides of themselves. Whether it’s in conversation with friends, in my sessions with partner-in-implementation clients, or at my side hustle where I dress women up in the fitting room of a plus size fashion store, I’ll help you see how awesome you truly are.
What advise/quote/prayer/mantra keeps you going when you're feeling down and out? “That was then. This is now.” I use it when I forget that I don’t have to stay stuck in uncomfortably familiar patterns. (Shout out to Grace Judson for sharing it with me)
What keeps you going when you're feeling down and out? I am surrounded by amazing, talented, strong, supportive women. They inspire me every damn day and I’m blessed to be able to reach out when I need them to throw down a rope and pull me out of a funk (the bad kind). Whether it’s calling me on my shit, sending me a hilarious video, or giving me a safe space to vent about what ails me- my girls got my back. ***A funk music dance party has also been known to pull me out of many a funk.
Who’s a fabulous femme inspiring you? What makes her so fab? Oh geeze…just one? I’m going to go with Viola Davis. Not only is she an amazing actor, she uses her platform for good. She never passes up a chance to create awareness and share a message even if it’s not a popular one. I love her ability to speak the fuck up. It’s something I’ve been practicing myself in the last little while and she is a great role model for it.
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