Lauree Ostrofsky helps women who value structure and accountability get clearer on what they want to do in life and become more confident to start doing it. She is a speaker, coach and hugger (dig this!), and is the author of a memoir entitled, "I'm scared & doing it anyway" and her latest book, "SIMPLY LEAP: Seven Lessons on Facing Fear and Enjoying the Crap out of Your Life."
I was first introduced to Lauree via email. Like any normal person in this digital age, I did some internet sleuthing. And when I did, I instantly thought, “I so want to know this woman.” During our conversation, she opened up and shared her story of how she went from being a straight-A student and type-A personality to someone that felt completely out of control after a life changing event.
In early 2004, Lauree had an MRI to determine the source of some inner ear issues she was experiencing. That was when she was diagnosed with a brain tumor. The news was completely unexpected. It made her question everything she knew about her life, her world, and having control of everything in and around it.
In this episode, Lauree walks us through before, after and during her experience and tells us how she is going through life now. Her story is one of resilience. She helps us understand how we can be both serious and silly at the same time. As well as, remain structured and scared. She also shares how mantras helped her heal, regain focus, and clarity.
Lauree is our kind of people! This is an inspiring interview that you absolutely should not miss.
Learn more about Lauree and her work at Simply Leap.
If you happen to be in the Hudson Valley, Lauree is also one of the super-connectors that created the Hudson Valley Women in Business networking group.
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- Scott Tillitt of BEAHIVE in Beacon, New York
- Simply Leap: 7 Lessons on Facing Fear and Enjoying the Crap Out of Your Life, Lauree Ostrofsky
- I’m Scared and Doing It Anyway, Lauree Ostrofsky
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Quotes + selected highlights from the episode
All of this wisdom is from Lauree herself (with some minor edits for readability).
[09:37] You can’t just climb for the sake of climbing. This was a new thought to me in my mid-20s. It worthwhile to just climb. You have to like what you’re doing. And, that started to worry me. “So if this isn’t what I want to do, what is it that I do want to do?” I wasn’t sure.
[15:12] “Wait. I don’t have control of my world?” That was the biggest thing that stayed with me throughout the process, how little control we really have and how much I convinced myself I had control, even from third grade.
[09:13] I was like that third grader who valued structure, and accountability, and knowing what she needed to do to impress the people who mattered, who I deemed mattered, whether my parents, my boss, my teachers, I kind of put on that pedestal.
[13: 47] I was going to quit my job that day and figure out what I was supposed to do next because I knew it wasn’t this job, and I knew it wasn’t this career path.
[14:37] Everything that I thought that I had planned, everything I thought I had control of was thrown out the window.
[17:59] It was packaged like this because it would force me to listen, and force me to let go, and force me to depend on other people, and open up emotionally in a way that I wouldn’t have let myself prior to this.
[19:52] As type-A women, it’s important for us to have that external package that people can see us as, “We’re all together, and there’s nothing falling apart.” Then, when big stuff happens, when the shit really hits the fan; it gets muddy and vulnerable, and it’s really hard to keep it all together.
[19:55] We realize that our vulnerability is sometimes our greatest strength and that the people in our lives can love us more, can accept us more, can help us more when we let them.
[31:33] I really got down to the smallest things. The smallest things are worthy of celebration. I can just be appreciative of the fact that I’m here.
[34:23] There was so much appreciation in having the ability to see life from a sparkly, new vantage point. I think gratitude was really easy at that point because when the alternative is being in the hospital hooked up to machines and having them draw blood at 3:00 AM, pretty much anything is worthy of a party.
[49:33] Many women who have a lot of people depending on them. They’re the doers. They’re the ones that get stuff done. They’re the ones that make sure everybody else is taken care of.
[1:02:00] We need to really choose to think as positively and openly as possible, and stay open to serendipity, and magic, and possibility, and potential, and choose those people in our lives that speak that language back to us, and make choices that keep opening doors in front of us because that is what we have control over.
[1:07:06] What has shown up to prove to you that what you think, or desire, or hope for is totally possible?
[1:23:48] I am just noticing in my own life, how much fear of success really gets in my way, way more than fear of getting it wrong.
[1:32:38] Women do business differently. We bring our full selves. We tend to not compartmentalize. We are emotional creatures, and I mean that in the best possible way.
[1:40:30] I think what you need to know is that there’s this—I mentioned kind of unicorns, and dance parties, and magical pens. I think the thing that most people know about me is that you can be both. You can be silly and serious.
[01:41:20] It’s not your fault that things happen and that the people who are supposed to love you don’t. It’s not your fault, and you get to enjoy life the way you enjoy life. Let there be magic.
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