It’s Valentine’s Day. Whether you’re someone all roses & romance or someone that wants to throw-up a little in your mouth today, there is one love that is so very important. That, my friends, is self-love. In fact, self-love, self-compassion, and self-care are regular, underlying topics here in the Le vital corp Salon. The topics also trickle into the discrete conversations I have with my private clients. If you know you should take better care of yourself, but struggle to make it happen in any realistic way, reach out to me today.
Since we are on the topic of love, can I tell you how much I loved this interview with Galen Ayers? Galen is a student of life - both academically and existentially - and a total dream guest. She’s also the daughter of the late and great, Kevin Ayers. Kevin was a pioneer singer and songwriter of the Canterbury psych rock scene in England. Galen, herself, is a force of (creative) nature. She is a musician, writer, psychologist, and activist.
In today’s episode, Galen talks about life as the daughter of such a free-wheelin’, creative father and a high-achieving mother. In young adulthood, she was the caregiver to her father and shares how that led her to writing and finding her own voice. We touch on wisdom, compassion, and how you can’t seem to have one without the other. We also chat about the need for taking recovery days as well as the epidemic of overwhelm and roles in today’s world.
In this episode, Galen tells me about her first well-being retreat on the island of Hydra. She will be joined by Vocologist and Vocal yoga expert, Heather Lyle. Super-cool!
The episode is ready for your listening pleasure. Grab a cup of hot tea (or your favorite seasonal beverage), get cozy, and press play.
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Quotes + selected highlights from the episode
All of this wisdom is from Galen herself (with some minor edits for readability).
[00:07:55] Your story changes so much every day.
[00:18:52] I learned that people don't really change until they get bored.
[00:40:30] The meditation, for me, I would describe it like going into a field of flowers.
[00:43:24] Well, the word compassion is calm and passion. These are the things that tie us together. What I like about compassion is that it's not right or wrong in my mind. It just is.
[00:44:10] My best realization has been that I always have the choice to add meaning, create meaning, change meaning for anything that happens in my life. No one can ever take that away from me, no matter how bad my outside situation.
[00:47:15] I believe our biggest job is to grow - to rebirth ourselves.
[00:49:56] At 30, I pressed the reset button in my mind. From 30 onwards, I am completely different to 30 years behind me, and I have the right to do that.
[00:51:10] I always put recovery days into my schedule. What I mean by recovery is an hour walk, taking my supplements every day, and doing something that I truly enjoy that no one else cares about.
[00:54:13] If you're feeling shitty, go to bed.
[00:54:42] One of my dad's favorite lines was, “Chance favors the prepared mind.”
[01:05:56] The decisions that you make personally are about balancing every day in your favor.
[02:09:57] Your life is a story.
[02:10:56] Don't take things so personally.
[02:11:20] Shit happens to everyone. That pain is an intense, but an inevitable part of life. It shouldn't necessarily be taken personally.
[02:11:40] We need choices of how long the suffering is going to be, and you can find ways of using that suffering as a shield.
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