Happy Holidays, friends old and new! If you are feeling like you are burning out from the holidays or from life in general, you are in the right place for a dose of inspiration. Join me and my guest, Maé-Bérénice Méité, a French international figure skating champion, as she shares her experience with burnout. It’s hard to imagine not having to navigate burnout at Maé’s level of competition. Here is a quick rundown of just some of Maé’s accomplishments: She is 2011 Ondrej Nepela Memorial Champion, the 2016 International Cup of Nice Champion, the 2015 Winter Universiade Silver Medalist, and a four-time French National Champion. During the 2018, PyeongChang Olympics she skated to Beyonce's "Run the World (Girls).” Yes, yes, and more YES!
You may be thinking, “Come on Kara, here we go again with the buzzword, ‘burnout.’” Yet, burnout is real. In this episode, you’ll hear firsthand how an elite figure skater handles burnout (and how I do, too). We talk about the REAL burnout. The kind of burnout that leaves you debilitated, feeling depressed, and anxious - something that we have to climb out of and push ourselves towards thriving again or, sometimes, just do what we’ve got to do to survive.
Maé shares some of things that worked for her and what she thought about her experience with burnout all so we can learn from her perspective. We also talk about how women can get closer to being in the flow state, especially in high pressure situations.
Fix yourself a large cup of tea, and allow Maé and I to offer you some sonic comfort and conversation.
Selected link love + resources from the episode:
Scroll down to see Maé’s performance at the European Championships 2018
Maé Photographed by Cedric Fons
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Quotes + selected highlights from the episode
All of this wisdom is from Maé herself (with some minor edits for readability).
[00:12:06] You just have to push your limits and put yourself together, put your mind into it, and try to do your best. Because that's the only way you can improve and get better.
[00:12:44] Sometimes, you’re here without being here. Those are the worst moments ever. The time on the ice feels so long because you can see yourself skate, not enjoying the performance, and doing the worst thing you could ever imagine doing on the ice in front of all those people. It can be frustrating, but sometimes you just don't feel your body at the right place. You don't have the right timing. You're a little bit tired. You don't have the energy. It will be different, but you always have to find a solution.
[00:28:21] [On how she performs on the ice and in the flow state] My brain is just off. I just let my body do the work.
[00:29:14] If I can hear things around me, that's a bad sign. That means I'm not really in the moment.
[00:29:52] You float on the ice, and you just let the body do it.
[00:30:57] [Advice for being in the flow state] We're all scared because we want to do great and want to show our best side. We want to make our coaches, federation, and parents proud. In the end, I think we just have to have fun on the ice and enjoy every step and every moment. Just breathe in, breathe out. Let's go and don't think twice.
[00:31:33] There are some scary moments in life, but if you don't enjoy it now, when will you?
[00:31:37 [A perfect metaphor for life on the ice and off] Skate as if it was your last program and give your everything. Give your all, and trust the work you've done.
[00:49:04] [Learning to say No.] I don't like to hurt people, especially the ones I care about. I used to always say Yes to everything. Well, now I say No. They're like, “What's wrong with you?” I respond, “Nothing, I just have priorities.”
[00:52:04] [On saying no and moving on] If a person does not understand that you made the decision for your own good, then maybe you don't need this person. That's something I'm learning, too. Sometimes, there are people we really like or love, and we want them in our lives. Then, at some point, their mission in our lives is done, and we just have to let them go. Sometimes letting go is the hardest for us, too.
[01:04:41] [On supporting younger skaters] They need to learn how to protect themselves. People are mean. That's a serious issue that we have to talk about.
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