Welcome to a bass ackwards day here in Le vital corps Salon. After a few years of doing this podcast, I've often gotten the request to answer questions instead of asking them. I love asking questions, so it took me a long time to get my own head around this. Perhaps, there was a little sprinkle of Imposter Syndrome thrown in, too. I’ve been so fortunate to have some really, really kickass guests!
Kelly Lyndgaard, who you met in episodes 30, 56, and 57, nudged this one along. Kelly’s become a mentor, sponsor, and a dear friend to me. So, it was an honor to turn the host reigns over to her, while I moved on over to the hot seat.
In this episode, you will hear us cover a lot of ground. I think Kelly compiled 2 years of questions! We will talk about neuro-fatigue, coaching, what my superpower would be if I could have one, making major changes in life, issues with feeling disconnected, and some ways to deal with decision fatigue.
This was a deeply personal conversation. I offer you a window into what’s been going on over the past couple years - a lot I haven’t spoken about publicly. My hope is that you find some lessons or comfort from my experiences to apply in your own life.
I think some folks try to put me on a pedestal as host. You will plainly hear how perfectly imperfect I am. After recording this episode, I felt pretty vulnerable. It felt so very strange to be on the other side of the interview. Please join Kelly and me for this heartfelt conversation.
Selected link love + resources from the episode:
Captivating Revised and Updated: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul by John and Stasi Eldredge (book)
Natural Cycles (app)
Barb Oakley (LvcS episode)
Sharon Rowe (LvcS episode)
Diane Crump (LvcS episode)
Steal Like an Artist by Austin Kleon (book)
Overwhelmed by Brigid Schulte (book)
Remember the Milk (to-do/task list app)
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All of this is from Kara (with some minor edits for readability).
[00:17:00] [On neuro fatigue] We're just trying to output so much all of the time that there’s a level of exhaustion that's probably generated just from that.
[00:17:40] [On coaching] I was always looking at 5 areas with my clients. It was diet, rest, exercise, stress management, and social relationships. I feel like the stress management...well, that piece was always interesting.
[00:28:11] [On regularly practicing gratitude] Sometimes, it's updating a note in Evernote and really writing it down. Other times, it's having a conversation with Craig. I've been really trying to be better about expressing gratitude to people in the moment, which is hard because I didn't grow up in a house where you talked a lot about emotions.
[00:48:40] [On feeling creatively in flow] I'm not a songwriter. I'm not an artist, but seeing people, constraints, pieces, and being able to connect them or disconnect them and reconnect them in ways is just amazing.
[01:11:04] What's most challenging with what you said is “if I could see what I've done.” A lot of the work that I do and have done has been invisible. The work I was doing with clients was also a lot of just reengineering habits, reengineering infrastructure, and looking at problem-solving.
[01:21:05] [On loneliness, the isolation of entrepreneurship, and the value of water cooler conversation] I know so deeply what that loneliness feels like. There is real value in that kind of human connection that I never anticipated I would miss and crave so bad. [...] If people are feeling a fraction of that, my heart feels so heavy for them. Because I know what that feels like.
[01:29:58] [On social isolation and being strategic with next work] Who knew my D.R.E.S.S. was so unraveled? I used that acronym D.R.E.S.S. - diet, rest, exercise, stress management and social relationships - all the time with my clients. I didn't realize that my own - the social piece of my life - was so atrophied. Who doesn't want to belong, right?
[01:51:00] [On collecting 33,000 task lists] I've heard women weaponize it for so long, right? The type-A, overachieving clients that I've had hundreds, if not thousands, of private conversations with over a decade have. I’ve heard a lot about task lists. They keep people up at night. They impact our sense of self and self-esteem. They’re a metric of our achievement or lack of achievement. I realize if this was something that we all share, I'm really trying to use the task list as a way to look at obligation and desire.
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