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Welcome to Project Fabulous Femme! Once or twice a month, I'll introduce you to a Fabulous Femme who's inspired me. I invite them to share their perspectives on being a modern woman and other vital corps topics. Please be kind, curious, and open-minded.
After meeting Julie through my husband, Craig, I was completely struck by how she has been paving the way for women in the business of rock & roll. Professionally, she's balancing the demands of being the VP of Promotion at Blackheart Records Group and Artist Manager for Antigone Rising. To me, her hustle, pluck and longevity in a time & an industry known for chewing up and spitting out its female executives and artists is seriously inspiring. Oh, did I mention that she did this as a working wife and mom? Yup, this is why Julie Rader is a fabulous femme. When she's not traveling the world (like below in Ho Chi Minh City with Antigone Rising), you'll find her bouncing between NYC and Greenfield, MA.
Q + A
How would you define being a modern woman in 2015? Being a modern woman today means being smart, empathetic, and involved. It means understanding that about 30 years ago we had very few rights...that these rights were not unalienable rights. I was part of the generation that fought for these rights when we were young. It's been less than 100 years since women got the vote. We can't be blasé about our political responsibilities. We are losing rights over our bodies in every state in the Union every day. Some states are making voting harder for women. Being a modern woman means paying attention and not letting legislature move us backwards in time.
What would you like to see modern women give more of a shit about? Our personal freedoms, meaning over our bodies, which should only be our personal business. And equal pay.
Conversely, what would you like see modern women give less of a shit about? We should care less about Hillary's email, which is a contrived, distracting, faux-scandal, and less about the media that beats the drum so incessantly about it. We should also care less about extreme positions on either side of an argument and find ways to compromise, find solutions that work, and heal.
How does creativity show up in your life? How do you nourish or stimulate your creativity when you’re not feeling it? Creativity is very music-driven for me. Music inspires me, motivates me, soothes me, adrenalizes me, entertains me, causes nostalgia, etc. It is an essential force in many ways.
What kind of relationship are you having with your smartphone or laptop (or other go-to device)? What’s that relationship look like? I love all my devices, and I've decided not to beat myself up about it. I love being in touch with people and on top of things at work and in the world. I enjoy the headlines I get from my Twitter feed, which give me a sense of what's going on. If there's an issue that interests me, I can go deeper. I generally avoid trending feeds, comment sections and other places for people to hate and be negative. But input from legitimate smart people & places give me a fuller sense of life in general....what's wrong in the world, what's possible, what needs my help, and what I should be aware of. On Instagram, I get to share the lives of the people I care about without seeming to hover over them. I would say, in general, my smartphone, my laptop, my iPad, they all enhance my life and bring the world to me. But just as important to know is when it's not okay to use these devices. I have dinner table manners and theater manners.
Do you predominantly make decisions with your heart, smarts or guts? What’s the process look like for you? All three, but at different times. In a creative business like music, your gut feeling is very important, and you have to learn to trust yourself. Creativity is so subjective...but a gut feeling can be the difference between success and failure. Sometimes in a creative business, you can fall in love with the thing that the artist has created, and you may think to yourself "If I love it, other people will too." Or you know how hard the artist has worked, and you admire their effort so much and feel connected in a way that influences your decision. Finally, your smarts are crucial, because every decision has to be executed in a certain way to succeed. So, you have to be smart.
Who’s a fabulous femme inspiring you? What makes her so fab? A couple of brilliant women come immediately to mind - Katharine Hepburn and Carole King. Each of them is representative of the best of their generation’s movies and music. They moved the world forward in awareness of women's rights and abilities in male-dominated industries. Each of them maintained the highest level of integrity while at the top of their art forms all throughout their careers. They both reflect the times of a changing America through the arc of their careers. Rather than me go on about it, I would recommend that you read biographies of each of these women. You will feel enlightened, encouraged...and just better about life. [KS note: A Katharine auto-bio and a Carole auto-bio for your reading pleasure.]
If another woman wants to connect with you, how would you prefer that happens? Email is best - ARMgmt@comcast.net (for Antigone Rising) or Julie@Blackheart.com (for Blackheart Records).
Would something this #FabFemme said resonate with a woman in your life? Did it make you think? There's a Share button below to pass the inspiration on.
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C'mon, isn't hot cocoa exactly what you thought I ate for lunch most days?
While I'm a geek about productivity and generally making intentional decisions about how I spend my time, the reality is that I'm a solopreneur. Not only do I get my juicy, creative time with clients, I get to wrestle the speech I want to be practicing out of the jaws of this jerky printer.
And poof! There goes the time I would have had to fix a proper lunch before my next client session. It's just like John Lennon said, "Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans."
I cruise (okay, speedwalk) into the kitchen with 10 minutes to go. It's still cold here in New England, so I know I want something warm. I also know that I want something with protein, fat and fiber to keep me a bit more sustained. So, I scan the cabinets and start tossing things into my blender like:
- 1-1.5 c. coconut milk kefir (or any milk you prefer, but it was fermenting in front of me)
- 1.5 tbsp. cacoa nibs (or use a bit less cacao powder)
- 1 tbsp. chia seeds (a good source of healthy fat, protein and fiber)
- 1 tbsp. peanut butter (ok, it was a really big blob on a teaspoon)
- a few drops liquid stevia (honey, brown rice syrup or maple syrup work, too)
- a sprinkle of bee pollen (which, if you're not allergic, has those energy-boosting B vitamins)
- a teeny pinch of sea salt
Because it's a Vitamix, I can hit the button, go off in search of my headphones and return to a frothy, filling hot cocoa. Ok, technically, a hot cacao. Either way, John approves:
Last week, two things happened. One, Stephen Covey, author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, died. R.I.P. Two, I drove an hour to see the one-night screening of Shut Up and Dance. It's a rockumentary around the last, voluntary,celebratory show of one of my favorite bands, LCD Soundsystem.
LCD Soundsystem is fronted by James Murphy, the most unlikely, yet supremely charismatic and articulate front men. As a new entrepreneur and coach, he's inspiring. Success came in his late 30s ("ancient" by music industry standards) when he opted to just be himself. He made a record that he and friends dug. To me, that's the epitome of flow. Coincidently, one of their last shows was one of my last shows as a resident of Brooklyn. It was a fitting bookend to my decade of Tom Foolery in The Big Apple.
Stephen Covey, rest in peace. I'm pouring a tall boy out for that man. Nerdy as this may sound, I owned a Franklin day planner before Covey's name was even attached to the product. (That was in junior high.) It was also around that time that read his 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I think my mom got it at some work conference. WOW! That book clicked for me. Ever the angsty tween, I immediately dove into the Begin with The End in Mind exercise. Always appliqueing words all over the back of my bedroom door, it prompted me to cut out the teeny Nike ad copy from some fitness magazine: I hope to be remembered, not recalled. (That stuck on my bedroom door until the house sold a few years ago. Maybe it's still there?)
“When you start a rock band, do you picture how it will end?” That’s what author Chuck Klosterman asked James Murphy in the film last week. Not going to lie, I got a shiver down my spine as I waited for his response. James Murphy then when on to talk about his drive to leave “a stain” on the world. A stain! That’s some serious post-punk shizzle. I think to some degree we all want to leave a stain on the world. I know that I do.
Every day, I want to get out of bed and improve the quality of life for someone. I want to be a thought provocateur and an advocate for options. For so many years, I made career and relationship choices that were so NOT right for me. It literally began to rot my guts by my mid-20s. So, despite all the naysaying and entrepreneurial-induced fear, that is what I do now. Maybe I inspire a few hundred people in the next 65 years; maybe I inspire a few thousand people. What I care about most is that people PLEASURABLY LIVE their lives with some purpose and passion. Our health. Our relationships. Our livelihood. Generally, we have options. We just may not always realize it in the moment or be confident enough to take the road less traveled. You need vision, clarity of purpose and a compass.
So, in honor of stains and Stephen Covey, I ask you to take just 2 minutes out of your hectic day for a quick visualization exercise. I want you to picture your own funeral. (No, I’m not kidding. Work with me here, people!)
What’s the mood? Celebratory reflections on a well-lived life or sighs of relief that you kicked the bucket?
Who is there? Who was still there for you at the end? Family? A few close friends? Neighbors?
And in the words teeny words that have driven me for years…
How do you want to be remembered, not just recalled? Really consider this. What are the people there talking about? What were the moments in your life that were so indelibly etched into the hearts & minds of those around you?
Those are the stains that you'll leave on the world. I'd love to hear how you hope to live an inspired life in the comments below.